In my view we were all creative and imaginative as children and as we lost it to a good extend as we grew up. Thanks to our education system and the demands (at least as we perceive) of the world around us.
Look at this scenario. You are in a team meeting in your office where your boss presents a problem and asks you for ideas to solve it. There is silence for sometime. Suddenly you have an idea. You are about to open your mouth and then you hold back. Because you are not sure if it is ‘not illogical’. What happens if others laugh at my idea? You decide to wait. Others start giving their ideas. All of them making perfect sense. The boss doesn’t seem to be happy yet. Then suddenly a colleague blurts out exactly the same idea that you were pondering on. The boss is jumping up in excitement and your mediocre colleague has stolen the show. You feel a lump in your throat as you leave the room and you are asking you this age old question- why did I hold back? I just lost an opportunity.
Reason is simple. As we become more logical, we are so particular that everything that comes out of our ‘mouth’ (I wouldn’t say mind) has to make sense for us as well as to others. Which is like the logical brain putting a gate or a filter for any information that comes in or goes out. It’s then, you look at a great painting of Salvador Dali and wonder – what’s this stupid thing all about?
So, the point is you need to re-train your brain to overcome the logical barrier. Here is a simple technique to do that.
If you have a small kid at home, start telling him/her stories. Not the ones you have read or heard. Create stories for your own. Make them as illogical as possible. Don’t have to worry; your kid is not sitting there judging whether you make sense. He/she is enjoying every ‘illogical bit’ of it. The more ‘weird’ the story is, better they enjoy.Don’t hold back your imagination and don’t try to make sense of what you say. Add effects by appropriate postures, gestures and sound if you like. Do it whenever you find time to spend with the little ones.
Two things will definitely happen:
Your rating as a parent will shoot up
You will soon have someone making a comment on you that ‘you really have those out of the box ideas’
There is nothing like a good sleep. In my post on brain, I had mentioned how important it ‘s from the point of memory consolidation.
But some of us have problems with our sleep. I have faced three types of issues with sleep. Let me describe them and the fixes I have found:
Can’t get sleep easily, you are tossing your self in the bed
This could be because of a stimulation. Doctors advice to avoid exercises, yoga, pranayam, coffee, smoke etc at least 2 hrs prior to going to bed (anything that stimulated you). Also avoid reading things that can excite you; same holds good with TV programs. If for any reason you are excited physically, try the following:
Lie on your back with hands on either side of the body. Stretch your entire body (start with your toes, then legs, angle, lower leg……..till head) and relax it with a Haaa….. sound. Relax. Repeat three – four times. (it should take about 20-25 seconds for one cycle)You will get a good sleep
This could be because there is a thought running in your mind. This could be about a problem you have at work, or some thing wrong you have done ..whatever. You are caught in the trp chewing on the thought. How can you get out ?
One way is to just listen to the ticking of a clock (brings you to the present moment….) A better way to really clear your mind, try this: Sit up and start talking loudly and continuously. The only condition is that don’t use any language that you know. Just go on talking for few minutes. Stop. Observe your mind for a while and go to sleep. You will sleep like a baby.
2. Can’t maintain the sleep, you wake up in between.
One common situation is that you wake up (mostly in the early mornings 2 – 4 am) and find yourself chewing on a problem that has been bothering you. If this happens, take my word for it, it’s not a good sign. This is a very clear indication that you are getting in to stress. Seek help. Btw, the talking technique above will help you flush your mind
The other common issue is a continuously disturbed sleep with lot of dreams (I used to tell my wife, it was as if sleeping in a cinema). I think typically this happens when you disturb your sub conscious mind. Could be that there was an incident that troubled you deeply, or you took a real strong decision or you are trying to change a deep rooted pattern. Normally they don’t stay, just leave them and they will vanish. And normally you don’t feel tired after such a night.
Another problems I think is having subtle fears in the mind. Not just fears about job loss or health issues, it could just be in the environment. You might just feel ‘insecure’ at the bottom of your heart.
3. You don’t feel fresh when you wake up in the morning
This used to happen to me often when I was a smoker and used to drink. Even if I slept like a log, I would be so lethargic in the morning and this would also pull my mid down. After I have given up alcohol and nicotine , this is a not a problem.
But I found some thing interesting. When I started doing some creative stuff (link), I slowly started looking forward to each day. And I wake up pretty early these days feeling fully rested. Therefore to have a great sleep, have a purpose in life and look forward to every new day.